Have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated, lamenting over how to respond to your team, who are doing well but not fully meeting your expectations? Deep inside you know that saying something negative will bring no inspiration to the circumstances, yet there’s a powerful force pulling on you to “keep it real”, and point out what’s not good enough yet.
This sort of thing is linked to a leadership commitment that states – “I create my results in life”. The main way that I do this is by directing my own thoughts.
Thoughts operate in the positive or the negative – I’m sure many of us have seen the depiction of a person with an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other – each offering seemingly useful advice. The angel supporting love based thinking and the devil supporting fear based thinking. The lesson is always the same…be mindful of the negative, because there often are things we can do about it…but focus your attention on what you want to create, and believe with your whole self that you will create it!
Here are a few tips I use to keep my glasses at the right tint.
Firstly, I check in with myself to ensure my intentions are good and I am doing my own thinking, with an open mind and an open heart. It’s easy to let, flawed beliefs, the ego and fear based thinking get in the way.
Secondly, I tap into my values to help guide me. I ask myself…how can I make a choice that reveals the person I want to be? If you value trust in your organization, and you want more of it, you’re best to be trusting, and trustworthy.
Finally, I approach it from the positive. Whatever my decision – it has to come from a place of love, not fear. If ideas are negative, they will in turn create negative results. So back to the original question – choose praise and objective feedback if you want your team to keep stretching themselves. Catching people doing thing is an uplifting energy and a healthy frequency for receiving your objective feedback.
So, if you want a rosy future, keep your glasses rosy throughout the year, and enjoy the results you are creating.
Clint Best is a business coach and the founder of Kaizen Business Coaching in Kelowna, BC. Clint has been guiding forward thinking business owners through change and growth since 2002.