I often ask people to grade themselves on a scale of 1 – 10 for different attributes they want in their lives. Most are reluctant to give themselves a 10. Why is that?
It’s usually because they are grading themselves according to someone else’s standards. Your 10 may vary according to; your personal ideal, what you feel is right for you, or what stage of life you are at. Why not set yourself up for success. A 10 should not be some idea of perfection that can never be reached. It’s ok if your 10 is reachable.
I have a client who was setting goals around his physical intelligence. He wanted to have more energy and feel good about how he looked in his clothing. I helped him define success not by having “washboard abs” and a “30 inch waste” – but by eating to feel a consistent level of energy throughout the day, and dropping 15 lbs with some adjustments to his exercise routine. He’s 51 years old and happily married – so he doesn’t feel the need to be whistled to at the beach, but an unexpected compliment from his wife or children would mean a lot. So’ he added that to his definition of a 10 as well.
Great results begin with honestly defining where you are at right now and where you want to be. A map is worthless if you know where you want to be, but you don’t know where you are, and the destination shouldn’t be a 10 if you are currently at a 6. What would it take to get to a 7? What does a solid 7 look like?
Put good language around your goals. You’re worth it!
Clint Best is a business coach and the founder of Kaizen Business Coaching in Kelowna, BC. Clint has been guiding forward thinking business owners through change and growth since 2002.